The seven fairies of menopause are:
Itchy, Bitchy,
Sweaty, Sleepy,
Bloaty, Forgetful
and Psycho...
Guess which one(s) she's channeling

Not overly tall or short
A litle thinfaced but attractive
Dark hair but only her alchemist knows for sure
Wire frame glasses that stay where she puts them
Comfortably and tastefully dressed
Sensible boots and robes
Probably won't kill you for pissing her off
Probably.....
Just ignore the bursting into flames part
She gets a little hot under the collar
and other places....she's not that old yet

She's also a bit of a traditionalist
She observes Skyclad Fridays wherever she is and believes all spellcasters should

Not interested in any oversized or unbelievable appendages, magic only goes so far towards suspending the disbelief.

She also isn't interested in women or any combination man/woman or evil/monstrous looking characters in general.
Is an 'ordinary' male character too much to ask for ?

If she gets a little messy she has a neat little cleaning cantrip for that

If someone shows up greasy, dirty and unwashed, she has a big fireball for that


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AcVFtu-ZmmM

Don't laugh guys...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJTpkos11JY